Chivalry, or the chivalric code, is a code of conduct associated with the medieval institution of knighthood which developed between 1170 and 1220.
Chivalry is a gorgeous thing ♥
I am a modern day woman – Of course I can hold my own. I am perfectly happy to open the car door myself or put up the new Ikea flat pack bookshelf. I am just as capable as any man. Having said that nothing makes me happier then when I am being treated like a lady and he offers to do those things for me, without being asked. It makes my heart flutter every time he shows me that chivalrous streak.
Whilst it may be tempting to treat your girl like one of the lads – you mustn’t forget she is in fact a lady.
Here are my top tips for being a modern day gentleman.
Put on a suit & own it baby! A well groomed & well dressed man is rare these days with the return of the lumberjack beard and trackie bottoms. A man in a suit looks powerful and like he has a purpose. In my eyes a well tailored suit to women, is like lingerie to men.
Apologize when you are wrong. We love it when you admit defeat – it shows us your vulnerable side and means you have morals. If you are wrong you don’t have to make a huge song & dance with an apology just be humble and apologise like a grown up. (Don’t make us get the pliers out and extract one ourselves.)
Keep your word. “Thou shalt never lie, and shalt remain faithful to thy pledged word” Gautier’s Ten Commandments of chivalry 1883.
Respect will never go out of style. If you say you are going to call at a certain time then make the call. If you promised to take her out on a date then take her out. If you can’t commit to a plan don’t give her your word. Keeping your word will build that all important foundation of trust and shows that you are reliable.
Make sure she gets home safely. Always offer to walk or drive her home. Don’t leave her vulnerable & fending for herself. If she doesn’t feel comfortable with you taking her home then ensure she gets in a cab safely.
Introduce her. If you are out together and you bump into someone you know. Don’t leave her standing there awkwardly like a spare part while you fail to include her. This will make her think you are embarrassed to be caught with her. Introduce her it will make her feel like part of the conversation even if she doesn’t say anything more.
Pick up after yourself. Being tidy will leave a good impression on everyone both at work and at home it shows you have some pride in yourself and the things you do.
Be patient & compliment her. It may have taken her 2 hours to get ready but remember she did it to feel good about her self and she wants you to think she looks amazing. Compliment her sincerely when she has made such an effort and if your bored of waiting for her to get ready don’t complain just put on your Xbox and wait patiently. In a relationship it is important not to fall into the trap of taking her for granted. Continue to compliment her like you did when you first began dating.
Make reservations. This shows initiative and forward planning. We like it when you take control and make decisions especially when it involves our favourite food.
A gentleman always listens. Show an interest in what others have to say. Be attentive, ask questions and listen to responses.
Never let a lady order dessert alone! We all think you are judging us over the table & Of course she wants dessert but she won’t want to order one alone. Order the smallest one on the menu so she can indulge happily in her own choice or suggest sharing one and just have a taste if you do not really fancy it.
I would much rather date a man that oozes class then a boy dripping in swag!
Thanks for reading.